Detached from the outcome

"I don't mind what happens" said J. Krishnamurti.

In the end, whatever happens, we'll be alright.

Not minding what happens is sacrilege in an outcome obsessed society. Krishnamurti's words grant us a moment of solace from the cultural cancer that we must have fame, status and riches to be happy.

Do you know what it feels like to do something without any attachment to an outcome?

We buy a new car for the soothing shot of dopamine and status points when friends comment on it. We care more about curb appeal than utility when buying houses. We set goals - to earn a million, or write a number one record - vying to never stop "grinding" until we reach that fabled outcome.

We're delusional about what control we have over our outcomes.

In business, to win means someone else has to lose. This is a zero-sum game. Business could work much better if it favoured collaboration over competition.

So how do we drop our attachment to the outcome?

Being entirely detached from the outcome happens during a BBQ with friends. Or with the family at Christmas. These are often joyful experiences where the noise of the world is blocked out and you're living, although fleetingly, in the moment.

So how do we transplant this into the work we'd traditionally do in pursuit of a goal?

Scott Adams claims to have created Dilbert, and a fortune of $80m, without setting any goals. He favoured following a system instead. He still did the same activity - writing everyday - but without a goal to reach.

So why can't we all do this?

My hunch is that people care much more about the outcome than the process. And that's why most people fail.

Instead, find the process that you love and let the outcome be the outcome.